Not "what" but "who."
I posted once on dreams. Kids have all kinds of ideas about what they want to be when they grow up.
But what did you think about who you would be? And are you that person? Did you plan to be generous, loving, fun, hospitable?
Did you plan to be bitter, critical, defensive?
I'm more selfish, lazy, and negative than I thought I would be. But I'm more outgoing, friendly, and compassionate than I expected.
Who are you? Is that who you always hoped you would be?